Find Your Soul Mate - Section 1 — Full webinar with Michael Adamedes

0:21Welcome. Thank you for watching, finding your soulmate course and I'm very pleased to be presenting this. This is the accumulation of nearly 40 years of working this area of relationships, working through people's personal issues, helping people to find their partners. And in this particular series, finding your soulmate, it's about helping you to find the right

0:50person to have a long-term relationship with. And this is lesson one. And in this lesson, I have four things I'm going to be discussing, how do you use the program, the purpose of this course, falling in love versus a long-term relationship, the difference between the two and the principles of manifestation. How am I going to attract, bring this person into my life? And

1:19with the program, there's a few things to be aware of. There are 10 lessons and a workbook, and I've printed the 10 lessons up and put them into a folder. And what I have here is the first lesson. And you need that with you because what's going to occur is the courses designed for you to answer questions, fill in blanks in the workbook. It's a process of helping you to remember. Also,

1:50you've got a comprehensive set of notes so that if you need to go back and review things, you can review them off your notes. Or you can also look back at the videos and watch various ones. I recommend that you do the course from beginning to end because it builds. Lesson one helps you understand lesson two, lesson three and so forth. So go through the entire course

2:20from beginning to end at least once. And then after you've done that, then you can just pick and choose and find the lesson that's most relevant for you. And you can repeat it. And I think it's a great thing to look at it and do it again and again do it several times if necessary. But certainly do everything once. The other thing I recommend is try and do the 10 lessons

2:50in a short time frame as possible. And my recommendation is try and do them within a month, within four weeks. Because you'll remember them, their cumulative, they work well. If you do half the course now and you're leaving for six months and you come back and do the other half, then you may find you forgetting things. Do it all, get right into it, really push yourself. And then

3:15come back later if you want to and repeat it. And you can keep repeating it as often as you want. The other thing is I welcome questions. I really love questions. So if you have any questions regarding the course content or understanding things more than happy to answer them and I'll send you back an email. But if you're asking me in-depth psychological questions about your personality, your life

3:48thing, it may be beyond the scope of an email and then you may require a private consultation. That's a different thing. But if it's something short and it can be answered within a paragraph or two, no problems at all and to help fellow participants in the course, I will be putting the answers to your questions on the members site and they'll only be available to other people doing the course.

4:18Anything that's of a personal nature will be removed so that you can't be identified. So won't have any of your personal details and if it's all a little bit too individual, I might change a name in the question so no one can identify you. So I'm just looking for particular patterns and questions and you may find that by going to the members group and looking at other questions

4:48people have asked it's going to be helpful for you. So we'll get ahead with this and the purpose why I'm running the course and what I'm hoping to achieve in the first instance is to help you believe in yourself because if you believe in yourself other people will believe in you. And so to build yourself a steam that's the first and most significant thing with this course. The second

5:18thing is obviously to help you identify the right person for you and to be able to magnetize, attract that person into your life and to also have a long term relationship with them. It's more than just dating and having a wonderful experience and that's great to do. This is to enable you to have that special person in your life and also part of believing in yourself is for you to be

5:53more relaxed, feel happy around your life and become a positive person. To really, again, build yourself build yourself a steam because the process of manifesting someone into your life is firstly know what you want, feel positive and energized so that you're feeling happy and okay and thirdly remove anything that is a negative belief that you may be carrying around who you are as a person

6:27or your ability to attract someone into your life. So the next part is the difference between falling in love and a long term relationship because sometimes people find it hard to know is this really the person. It's so exciting. Is this the person I'm going to spend the rest of my life with? And falling in love is wonderful. It's fabulous. It's amazing and we can become quite addicted to it.

6:57But you can fall in love with someone and it may not be the person you end up having a long term relationship with and it could be you have a long term relationship with but you could have a long term relationship with someone and to begin with you didn't actually fall in love with them and over time you developed a very deep love for them. So in order to work out the difference

7:22falling in love and a long term relationship there are some characteristics. The first one is falling in love almost happens instantaneously. It happens between one to seven days and when I met my partner Susie we've been together 21 years and I would consider her my soulmate. I had this really strong connection and I felt very close to her but a part of me just wouldn't allow myself to

7:53believe that I actually fall in love with her and it was sometime later it was actually a week or two later that I realized wow I've really fallen for this girl but it happened probably the second time I met her and it is something that's exciting it's passionate. But you feel very vulnerable it's because it's scary because you do care about that person so much and it does matter.

8:24It's very frightening if you think well am I feeling this way and I don't know she's feeling that way and so you can be very vulnerable but you need to stay with that and this is a tricky time because people can overreact and everyone's super sensitive and you can misconstrue things so yes it's exciting and it's wonderful but calm down and give the other person the benefit of the

8:55doubt because it's very easy to misconstrue what's taking place and it's very addictive you just want to be in love. You want to be go back to this being in this honeymoon amazing place but to get to know someone to work through the issues of personality to be able to feel connected to that person it takes a long time it's a it I believe between 12 to 24 months as a general rule there

9:26are people with whom you could short circuit that but for the average person it takes a while because we present to the other the best side of ourselves and you really don't know the other side of your partner until there's an upset but just because there's an upset and there's a vulnerability in your partner that isn't a deal breaker that just means this is a human being trying to figure out

9:58their stuff you're trying to figure out your stuff you may make a mistake they make a mistake now let's see if we can get through this if I can resolve an issue that's come up with my partner and I can get back to feeling connected again that's a very good sign because it means that you have the ability to work through problems if we've only ever had the honeymoon phase

10:25I've always had blissful it's amazing it's exciting you've got to be a bit careful because you know it's honeymoon can only go for so long and what occurs is there is going to be a disagreement they're most likely will be an upset and that's being human that's two people coming together and the irony is the person you love the most is the one you're most likely to have the greatest

10:56upset with because you've let down your your emotional barrier you've let them into you and so you are it seems exposed but unless you're prepared to go there you won't build intimacy you won't build connection and in time yes there's an understanding and hopefully you can work it through that becomes the key to a long-term relationship and a long-term relationship has commitment purpose

11:32you're looking at it's more routine and there's a sense of security I know in a previous relationship not the one we see before I could feel connected and commit to that person it took me nine months and then I felt okay all right well I can I feel I can let myself go here and even that relationship went so way eventually it wasn't the one for my long-term relationship but

12:05what I needed that particular relationship in order to work something out in myself and then having worked that out it prepared me for the next relationship which is Susie and I had to become someone else order for her to turn up in my life the other thing is the principle of manifestation and so here in this course what we're trying to do is manifest bring someone to us we need to ask for what we want

12:39and sometimes you don't even know what you want and then you've got to believe and believe is it more to do with believing that someone will want you and believing that you can have this and go into action and you do things and receive so I want to talk about the objections the reasons why the principles of manifestation may not work and so if you understand the things that block it

13:13then we can neutralize those so there doesn't have to be anything stopping you from being able to progress and bring this person into your life and the objections to asking you know what goes wrong when we ask is the first thing is I didn't know I could ask so sometimes people don't even know that's what they have to do because I believe life is not a process of finding what's

13:44needing to happen it's a process of creating it so we're not here to find ourselves we're here to create ourselves so the process of life requires your input it requires your intention so that you can bring it to you so people may not know that you have to ask for it now sometimes you'll ask in in another way because you're searching then then by default your search implies you're asking but to ask

14:18consciously is very powerful the other way the other thing is I may not know what I want and that and often most people don't know what they want because they grew up in a in a life in a childhood where parents and other people were working out what they wanted for you and you never got a chance to really figure out what you wanted for yourself and so when people are in that situation the way

14:49they work out what they want is by default they work it out when things don't work and then they realize that's not what I wanted I didn't really want that I went there because I that was just the way everything was working and it just seemed easy I ended up in this job I'm doing something that really it's good job but it's not me and I now know that I'm very dissatisfied and I'm happy

15:16for me when I first started out finishing university I went and worked as an accountant and I did that because that's what my family thought would be good for me and that's what I was told at school school counselor and I finished a degree and went and worked and within 12 months I absolutely hated it but you know for some people that is exactly the right job for me it didn't work

15:47and I only found out by trying it and not being happy there and so that's by default so working out what you want is a big deal and sometimes people think it's wrong to ask I'm being selfish I want too much but I think when it comes to love when it comes to an intimate relationship don't compromise this is one of the most important significant things that you can have and so you do

16:15want to ask for what you want and go for it and let life circumstances teach you if that's the right thing or not don't censor yourself and don't allow other people to censor you unless you have a life experience to show you something otherwise but certainly give it a go the other thing is we can think that what we're asking for is impossible that sort of person doesn't exist but when you think

16:47about it there's more than enough partners here I am in Australia and in Australia we have 25 million people of which 12 and a half million a man 12 and a half million a women of that 12 and a half million people at least 10% would be in your age group so here we have 1.25 million people and of those about 10% would be available so there's 125,000 people and of those 125,000 people

17:27if you think about who you would want and living somewhere close by you could say 1% 1% is still 1,200 and 50 people over a thousand people living within a reasonable proximity of you could be potential life partners and it's got nothing to do with the numbers it's got everything to do with you believing in yourself that particular person's out there you only need one person if you are in

18:06the United States with a population of some 330 million you're talking 13 14 times greater than Australia then it's more like 13 14,000 people that could be potential partners for you and so there is no limit the only limit is your thinking and feeling there is no limit to a potential partner there is no limit to love and so asking is a big deal and sometimes the questions to vague I just

18:42want someone who I like or likes me yes that's great but we've got to get very specific and drill down to exactly who it is and picture that person that's what I'm going to cover in the next couple of lessons so becoming very specific on what you want and the more specific you become the better your chance of manifesting it creating it having it appear in your life the

19:13objections to believing you know whether I believe this is two parts one is the thought and then it's the feeling so the thought that I may limit myself is that you have negative thoughts about what you want negative thoughts about oh well I can never have this no one would want me I'm not all right there's something wrong with me you just got to drop it there's just a story I'll

19:44talk more about thinking and feeling and taking control of your thoughts because you can't allow yourself critic to sabotage you the other thing is negative thoughts about the process you know this won't work I can never find the right mechanism or approach or what's going on to help me do it if you believe in yourself if you're okay in yourself then that person will front up in your life

20:15how I met Susie was she was my next door neighbor I'd been in a previous relationship with been together for eight to half years and it ended and then I'd been single for about a year and a half and I after about say a year of being single I started looking around dating wanting and nothing really worked I decided to move into a house in Sydney in the inner city part of Sydney and it just

20:48happened to be the house next door to Susie and Susie had gone through a previous relationship where she had a lot of upset and she'd worked her way through it and had now reached a place of finding some harmony within herself and several months later I turned up in the house next door she didn't even need to go looking because she worked on changing something in herself I was looking

21:15and but I didn't think the person I was looking for was right next door and there she was and so just work on yourself the process works the feeling is you can't want this thing wanting something actually has the reverse effect of what you desire in order to actually manifest create something you have to imagine and feel you have it if you want it a part of your

21:48consciousness is saying yes I desire this please come to me but another part of you is saying I don't have it because why would you bother wanting something if you already had it but if you acted as though you already had it then everything is working in your psyche towards having it so how blessed am I to have these loving relationships in my life I have these loving friends

22:18I have my family I have a pet that even loves me I am my life is full of love so even though it may not be that specific individual person at least think that your life is full of love thinking that we'll bring more love to you the other thing is stress you got to watch you're not a stress addict stress makes everything hard just easy things become really hard

22:48and so the trick here is if you're going to work on yourself you've got to work on relaxing having fun relaxing having fun is not copying out most of the time it's not copying out relaxing and having fun is nurturing yourself respecting yourself valuing yourself so the trick is have fun relax don't if having fun is too much and imagine you already have what you want the third piece of this is

23:23action you know the thought is I can't do it I don't have any resources I don't know what to do and people become too passive now you've got to go for it you've just got to and the thing you're going to go for the thing you're going to spend the most amount of time on is feeling good about yourself feel good about who you are work on being relaxed the next piece is receive receive

23:52is another version of belief but receiving is more to do with self belief and some of the things that people think is it will never happen for me I'm being unrealistic I want too much no one would want me my mum and dad broke up therefore I'll never have a loving relationship because I've got a pattern it's all story if you believe it then the likelihood is that's what's going to happen but

24:20if you stop that yes I can see those beliefs occurring but I choose not to give them any meaning and one of the things I would say is I zero that thought I neutralize that thought or I have an affirmation which is the belief that no one will ever want me no longer has any meaning to me I let go and rise above that belief to a time and place where I'm free and so I just let go of

24:53that belief having any reality for me and so objections to receiving are really are all about self worth and it's nothing to do with receiving all you have to do in order to receive is say thank you thank you you don't have to do anything for it you don't have to earn it all you have to do you sit there be still and say thank you and that's enough that's enough and then you'll receive

25:29thank you the summarizing the introduction then it's basically about how to use the program have your workbook with you try and do the lessons in as quick a time as possible and do send off any questions you may have falling in love and a long-term relationship just because you're fallen in love with someone do take your time my advice to people when they do find someone it's all very

26:02exciting it's all very amazing and that's wonderful and enjoy it and have it but just be a little bit cautious before you allow yourself to fully commit and think this is the long-term relationship this is the person I'm spending the rest of my life with this is the person I'm going to share a home with this is the person we may have children with this is the person I'm going to go forward

26:29take it a bit slow because the emotions can be really really high and it's great to have those emotions but at the end of the day your intensity and their intensity can sometimes sabotage what's happening slow gives everyone a chance to adjust the manifestation we're going to deal with this in considerable detail over the next few lessons but the basic thing is you need to ask get very very clear on what

27:01you want that's what we're going to spend a bit of time working out you've got to believe you got to believe that you can do it and this process works basically believing can be as simple as neutralizing not believing you don't really need to believe in a very active way you've just got to neutralize anything that says it's not going to happen for you because your natural state is loving

27:29your natural state is to connect it's taken something to separate you so if we can just neutralize whatever has limited you separated you then the connection happens easily and naturally and action just nurture yourself and receive again it's believing yourself and so that is the end of lesson one and as I mentioned before if you have any questions email them to info at

28:04Michaelatomedes.com please quote this lesson number one so I'll know what your question refers to give me your name and I won't publish any of your name if you don't wish it and but it will the only publishing is only private two people who have already committed to doing this course it's not placed in a public forum it's only for members participants of this course

28:34all the answers and questions so thank you for listening to that and lesson two is step out of your comfort zone and it's going to explain the difference between a thought and a belief how thoughts and emotions work step again of your comfort zone being prepared to go for it and making a commitment and measuring the risk being very careful about the risk you take of

29:03course but to some extent everything requires a little bit of a risk so that's the next lesson if you've got the time I do this reasonably soon just to finish I want to support you with a little bit of a it's kind of a breathing meditation and I call it breathing through your nose and there are three reasons why breathing through your nose is better than breathing through your mouth one is

29:33it's healthier you're filtering and humidifying the air and it enables you to retain the moisture in your body it slows down your metabolism calms you down the and it puts you into present time present time is where it's all at if you're in present time you won't go into anxiety if you're into present time it'll neutralize worry you've got to stop worrying and stop being anxious that's

30:08the idea the way to stop yourself worrying and being anxious is being present time one of the best and easiest ways to be in present time is breathe through your nose so until the next lesson breathe through your nose thanks for watching