Famous Australian writer Blanche D’Alpuget while recently commenting to the Good Weekend magazine about the last ten years said: “… on an intimate level relationships between men and women seem dulled or numb, worn down by more than two decades of women’s fight for liberation. There is a bland veneer of independence and non-commitment which conceals the uncertainty of the sexes about each other.”
Our society is experiencing a major change in the relationships between men and women and never before has the need for understanding and communication between the sexes been so important.
I was drawn to working in relationships in 1981 after my marriage broke up and I was almost suicidal for a month. I had been married for seven years and had a three year old son. Although my ex-wife and I loved each other, we were unable to effectively communicate and eventually the frustration of so many unresolved and uncommunicated issues overburdened the relationship to the point where it broke down. From that time I conscientiously began my journey of learning about myself and what makes a relationship work. I am still learning.
Love is one of the most desired and yet one of the most misunderstood things. It is a temporal (it is not a function of time, the love you once experienced always exists), it’s non-consumable (the more you give, the more you have) and it is not a function of the outside world (it is never the supply of love that is the problem, it is your capacity to receive it). The ultimate relationship is the one where you totally accept yourself. You probably already know this, but how do you make this a living reality in your life?
In the weekend course Creating Loving Relationships we have many games, processes and techniques to illustrate and demonstrate the way you may deny receiving love. Because if you deny yourself the love then in some subtle way you will deny your partner that same expression of love. First give to yourself that which you wish to receive from your partner.
Relationships improve miraculously when this simple principle of self acceptance is truly understood.
Comments from people who have attended:
- “As a couple we found new ways to communicate, express and relate.” – James Budin.
- “After the course, I re-discovered my husband as someone who I was again in love with.” – Susan Stevens.
- “Before the workshop I was alone and now I found a new relationship based on truth and trust.” – Bruce Brown.
- “Very friendly atmosphere, no peer pressure. as informative as you liked, the more you wanted the more you got”. – Vince Parker.
Imagine walking into a room and feeling totally confident about meeting and talking with new people. You are certain in your judgement of people and situations, your movements are relaxed and purposeful. When relating, both at home and in the workplace, you listen and understand another’s point of view easily, and speak your mind without the fear of creating an argument. You love to be with people and they love to be with you.
You deserve it.